A Private Journey
The Intimacy Reset™
A structured program designed to help you reconnect with your sexual self, grounded in nervous system science, embodied practice, and evidence-based,
emotionally attuned guidance.
First, we unlearn what was never helpful.
Then we build the knowledge you were never taught.
Sound Familiar?
If you've ever had these thoughts and didn't know why...
"I love my partner, but sex doesn't feel fulfilling... something is missing."
"I'm never in the mood. What's wrong with me?"
"I feel disconnected from my body and my desire."
"I don't even know what I want, or how to explain it."
"I feel like I'm performing instead of actually feeling anything."
"I go along with it just to avoid the pressure."
"I used to want sex... now I don't know what changed."
"It takes me so long to get into it, and I feel guilty about that."
"I feel touched out by the end of the day. My body just shuts down."
"I don't feel comfortable in my body anymore."
"I carry quiet shame about my sexuality."
"I've started to think something might be wrong with me."
You're not broken.
You were never taught.
The Science
What is The Intimacy Reset?
What We Cover
Cliteracy
How your anatomy actually works - the structure, function, and role of the clitoris and the wider sexual anatomy.
Arousal & Desire
How arousal and desire actually work, including arousal non-concordance and why your body responds the way it does.
The 8 P's Framework
The P's of Sexual Wellbeing FrameworkTM - what turns your desire on and off, and how to read your own conditions.
Your Preferences
Do you know what you like? What are your preferences - and can you communicate them clearly?
Erotic Identity
Discover your erotic self. Weekly reflections as a treasure hunt within - getting to know the woman you are becoming.
NurtureU e-Book
Track your changes and reflect on your journey with the NurtureU companion guide.
Research in sexual neuroscience tells us that female desire is not spontaneous, it's responsive. It doesn't appear on demand. It emerges when the right conditions are in place: safety, presence, trust, pace, and permission.
When those conditions exist, desire has room to return.
When they don't, the body does what bodies do, it protects itself by shutting down.
But conditions are only part of the picture.
Desire also needs a sense of aliveness, the feeling that you are more than your roles. That you are a woman with an erotic self, not just a partner, a mother, a caregiver.
Esther Perel describes it as the tension between security and excitement, between the familiar and the unknown. Women who have spent years giving everything to everyone can quietly lose touch with their own separateness, and with it, the part of themselves that wants.
And there is one more layer that often goes unspoken.
Many women have never been taught how their bodies actually work. Cliteracy, a real understanding of the clitoris, the vulva, and the wider sexual anatomy, is rarely part of anyone's education. Without it, arousal can feel confusing, needs are hard to name, and pleasure becomes something that happens to other people.
Think of desire as having both a gas pedal and a brake. Most women who feel disconnected aren't missing desire, they have a brake that's been quietly stuck on. Stress, mental load, feeling unseen, not feeling safe enough to want. The work isn't to push harder on the gas. It's to understand what's been pressing on the brake, and gently ease it off.
The Intimacy Reset™ works across all of these dimensions. Over our sessions together, we create the conditions for desire to return: through knowledge, reflection, and a deeper understanding of who you are as a sexual being.
“This is not technique training. This is identity reclamation.”
The NurtureU Framework
The 8 P's of Sexual Wellbeing Framework™
Have you ever thought about a checklist to validate your feelings, your body, your needs, your safety? Real intimacy is supposed to energise you and bring pleasure and joy, not deplete you. With the 8 P’s of Sexual Wellbeing Framework™, we break it all down into small bites, easy to process and assimilate.
Physiology
Am I thinking about STIs, pregnancy, or protection?
Safety is the foundation of pleasure. When the body carries unspoken health concerns, desire quietly retreats.
Presence
Am I mentally here, or still carrying the day?
An occupied mind is a closed door. Your nervous system needs to feel the room it is in.
Partnership
Do I feel emotionally safe and considered?
Resentment and disconnection are the most common desire-killers no one talks about.
Practicalities
Privacy, fatigue, timing, interruptions?
Context is not a mood-killer excuse - it is neuroscience. Your environment matters.
Pressure
Do I feel expected to perform?
Obligation shuts down desire. Sex should be a choice, not a duty.
Pace
Is there enough time for my body to catch up?
Female arousal is not instant. Feeling rushed is the same as feeling unsafe.
Pleasure
Do I expect this to feel good for me?
If past experience has been disappointing, the body learns to opt out before it even begins.
Permission
Do I actually want this right now?
The most important question - and the one women are least often taught to ask.
This framework forms the foundation of the Intimacy Reset™. You will learn to read your own conditions, rewrite or create them.
By the end of this journey, you will:
Understand how arousal actually works in your body, and why it hasn't been showing up.
No longer brace for sex, perform, or go through the motions to keep the peace.
Name what you want and say it out loud, without shame, guilt, or silence.
Experience pleasure that is genuinely yours, not performed or borrowed.
Know your anatomy in a way no one ever taught you, and it changes everything.
Discover an erotic identity that belongs to you, not to your roles or your relationships.
Approach intimacy from a place of choice, not obligation.
Does that sound like something worth having?
Something worth sitting with
Disconnection is not a decision women make. It is a quiet movement, gradual and without a clear moment when things changed.
Another year passes. The gap widens. The conversation gets harder to start.
Not because you don't want things to be different. But because no one ever gave you the language, the knowledge, or the permission to ask for more.
This isn't about urgency. It's about noticing what it costs to keep waiting, in energy, in closeness, in the quiet erosion of something you used to feel.
You don't have to fix everything at once. But you do have to start somewhere.
Sexual disconnection rarely stays contained. Over time, it quietly reshapes the whole relationship, the distance that starts in the bedroom eventually finds its way into the kitchen, the dinner table, the way two people stop really seeing each other.
Working on your relationship with yourself is not just for you. It ripples outward, into your partnership, your family, and the way everyone in your home experiences closeness and ease.
No pressure. Just a conversation.
Your Investment
A private journey, guided at your pace. This is space held just for you, to learn, reflect, and reconnect with yourself.
Pay As You Go
$200
per session
1 × 55-minute session
Individual Journey
$900
full journey
6 × 55-minute sessions - save $300
Couples Journey
$1,300
full journey
6 × 85-minute sessions
This is an investment in understanding yourself, in finally having the knowledge no one gave you, and in no longer feeling like a stranger in your own desire.
Each session builds a real foundation. For many women, it is just the beginning. Sexuality is layered, and your journey may naturally continue well beyond this point.
Questions
Frequently Asked
What if I feel embarrassed talking about this?
That feeling is completely normal - and it is exactly why this space exists. Sessions are private, shame-free, and entirely led by your pace and comfort.
What if I don't even know what I want yet?
That's where most women start. You don't need to arrive with clarity - that's what the journey is for.
Do I need a partner to do this?
No. This work begins with you. Whether you are partnered or single, the Intimacy Reset is a deeply personal journey. Many women do this entirely for themselves, and find it changes their relationships as a result.
I've never talked to anyone about this. Is that okay?
More than okay. Most women who come to this work have never had a safe space to say any of it out loud. That's exactly what this is. You don't need a history of therapy or any prior experience. Just a willingness to start.
Is this therapy or counselling?
No. The Intimacy Reset is sexuality education, not therapy. NurtureU is grounded in the latest science across sexual neuroscience, female desire research, and sexuality psychology. The work is educational, reflective, and evidence-based, focused on knowledge, body awareness, and building a healthier relationship with your sexuality.
What if I'm not sure this is the right fit for me?
That's what the free Clarity Call is for. It's a no-pressure conversation to explore whether this feels right for where you are right now. No commitment required.
I am religious. Is NurtureU aligned with my values?
NurtureU is faith-neutral. Cris works with women of all backgrounds and beliefs. At the heart of this work is the idea that your body is your temple, something to be understood, respected, and carefully considered in how and with whom it is shared. Far from conflicting with faith, many women find that this deeper relationship with their body deepens their sense of self-worth and intentionality.
What if my partner doesn't understand why I'm doing this?
That's a real and common concern. What we've seen is that when women begin to understand themselves better, the relationship often benefits naturally. You can share as much or as little as you choose. This is your space.
Ready to Feel at Home in Your Body?
A free 30-minute call to find out if the Intimacy Reset™ is the right next step for you.
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